Kindness

KINDNESS

According to the Mental Health Foundation: ‘Kindness is defined by doing something towards yourself and others, motivated by genuine desire to make a positive difference’. Research has demonstrated that kindness creates a sense of belonging and acts to ease feelings of isolation. What I like most about this particular definition is that it does not state that kindness is an exclusively an outward facing behaviour.

Over the years, we have seen so many incredible examples of our Eaton House family doing kind and caring things for other people but now we are inviting you to plan an act of kindness for yourself. Kindness helps build relationships and allows us to share in the best elements of humanity whilst also boosting our mental health. Kindness is something to be celebrated but it’s often something that can get lost in the busyness of day-to-day life, so this is a great opportunity to cast the spotlight on it begin with a self-directed act of kindness to help boost our self-esteem and improve feelings of optimism, which could be just what we all need. 

Spend some time thinking about what would make you feel good and then plan it out. Directing kindness towards ourselves gives us a great opportunity to reflect on just how great it can feel to be on the receiving end of an act of kindness.

Below we have listed some ideas on acts of self-kindness but feel free to follow your own imagination and share some ideas with others.

·         Create some deliberate quiet time in your day

·         Buy yourself something that brings you joy

·         Take time to re-watch your favourite movie

·         Say three kind and positive things about yourself

·         Have your favourite meal

·         Give yourself the opportunity to have the perfect nights’ sleep

·         Say ‘no’ (with love) to something you just don’t want to do right now

Observe with curiosity just how being kind toward yourself can give you a boost in energy and mood and then consider how you can make this a regular and deliberate practice. 

 

 

Random Acts of Kindness toward others for today and everyday

1. Thank someone 

Telling someone you’re grateful for being there to listen, cooking you a meal, taking out the bins or lending you their bike is bound to put a smile on their face. This simple ‘thank you’ shows that you really care about what they have done and that it has made a difference to you. Gratitude is proven to boost mood and happiness so it can be great for both of you.

2. Ask someone in the older community about their past

Sometimes older people may live alone or feel isolated from the rest of the community because they cannot be involved in the same way. Make them feel valued by asking them about their history and hearing their stories. A simple call or email can make a huge difference to their day but the likelihood is we will also learn something valuable from them. 

3. Send a friend a message 

Let someone know you’re thinking about them, whether they’re going through a hard time or not. Reaching out doesn’t always have to be about asking for something from people or trying to fix things. Just a simple message to say 'hi' can improve someone’s mood and letting people know we’re here for them can alleviate feelings of loneliness and anxiety.

4. Have a judgement-free day 

If we really tuned in and paid attention to the amount of judgment we pass day to day, we might be shocked. When we encounter someone with different lived experiences and opinions to us, it can be second nature to make assumptions about them and perhaps even pass comments. It might be a judgment about how they look, what they do or the choices they make in their own life. Judging others is often a subconscious attempt to boost our own sense of self-worth, but being unkind is never going to enhance our own feelings about ourselves and it certainly won’t make other people think highly of us. When you find yourself passing judgment try to replace that negativity with at least one positive observation.

5. Donate something you no longer need

There’s a huge difference between things we want and things we need. If you have something in your house that you once wanted but no longer have a need for it and the desire has worn off a bit this might be a great time to think about donating. With certain items the best thing to do might be to sell them and donate the money raised.

Hopefully this has inspired you to think about how to show kindness towards yourself and share it around with the people you come into contact with day-to-day. 

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